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Y’all, whether you like it or not, bathing suit season is fast approaching. Does this put a little panic in your heart? Let’s stuff that panic back down where it came from!
I have never had The Perfect Figure, and I will admit that bathing suit season definitely takes some mental gymnastics, but I have never let the fear of not looking like a supermodel kill my mojo.
Wanna know how to do it? Good. Because I have a lot to say. 🙂
1. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is
Please don’t tell me you look terrible in a bathing suit if you you are buying some crappily cut, $18 number that you picked up at Costco while you were restocking the eggs and lettuce in your fridge. Let’s actually make an effort, shall we?
Step One: Buy yourself an Investment Suit. You deserve it.
This doesn’t mean you have to spend a million dollars (Ok, so I will admit, I *have* found flattering suits at Costco before) but buy yourself a suit that is going to do you a favor — because they are available. Slim your waist, call attention to your fabulous rack, make yourself look like you are 6 feet tall. Your bathing suit, just like your clothing, should accentuate the positive. Maybe even more so than your actual clothing because there is SO MUCH LESS OF IT.
Look for a bathing suit that is worth wearing, and TREAT YO SELF!
2. Don’t Trade Experiences for Comfort + Always Be Prepared
One of the major obstacles to overcome when buying an Investment Suit is that we would rather just skip wearing a bathing suit altogether than buying a nice one that makes us feel good. But that is a GIANT CONCESSION. A life concession, you all. Over a bathing suit! Don’t trade a great experience that requires a bathing suit to stay home and in your comfort zone.
This is not living! Don’t hand over your power to a skimpy piece of spandex!
But how can we get excited about a bathing suit experience if we don’t even have one — if we just avoid the purchase altogether? I’m not saying that once you buy a nice bathing suit you will want to walk up and down your street in it — that will take a little more time (HA!) — but if you never get yourself one, you are missing out! Buy yourself something pretty and allow yourself to be excited about it. Then when the time comes you can work on mentally preparing yourself to face the event.
Speaking of mentally preparing yourself…
3. Focus On What You’ll Be Doing, Not How You Are Feeling About Your Thighs
I’m not gonna lie, this is an act of discipline. But honestly it’s a worthwhile act of discipline to practice. Why are you even getting into this bathing suit anyway? Are you taking a romantic trip with your spouse? Swimming outside with your kids? Are you having a girls weekend on the beach? Are you going waterskiing with a group of friends?
Remember what you are doing, and focus on gratitude for THAT. Somewhere there is someone who would LOVE to be doing what you are doing in that moment. Do you really want to waste that precious time and experience fretting over what other people *might* be thinking about your body?
Don’t waste your time! Be in the moment. Allow yourself to enjoy your life.
4. Make A Bit Of An Effort, But In The End Realize That Nobody Cares
If you were going on a hot date with your spouse, you’d pay attention to what you are wearing, right? If you were heading to a job interview, you may take a little extra care with your hair. Well if you are attending an event where you will be required to wear a bathing suit — ROCK THE HELL OUT OF IT. Grab your cute shades, wear some adorable sandals, find a fabulous cover up. Accessorize! Pay attention to the details — it will only help how awesome you feel about yourself in the process.
But in the end, remember that most other people are also fretting about what they look like. No one is worried about what YOUR thighs look like, and if they are — well that’s their problem. And you don’t need to spend a moment of your time worried about it. And if the doubt creeps in, focus on what you’re doing, who you are with and then bask in your luckiness!
And if you feel yourself being critical about someone else’s swimsuit attire (hey, this is real life, it happens)– well quit that. But consider it an act of kindness to yourself. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all just rock our cute suits, and enjoy the water with our friends/family/loved ones without fear of judgment? So help make that happen, and don’t be a part of the crappy part of swimsuit season. And then hold your head high in your awesome bathing suit and enjoy yourself!
So friends, those are my best tips. Navigate swimsuit season with some courage! You can do it!
Do any of you have tips to share? Your favorite place to find investment suits? Cute cover up suggestions? Jedi Mind Tricks you use? Spill the beans in the comments!