Monthly Archives: September 2012

Keeping Pace

When it comes to CrossFit, I am certainly terrible at a lot of things. If it involves pulling or pushing or hanging my body weight from or around a bar, I’m not going to win any contests. It doesn’t mean it can’t won’t be done at some point, but these are the things I struggle with. I weigh a lot. This is not a judgment about myself, this is just a fact. I need to be stronger than your average 150lb chick to huck my ass over a bar. Period. It’s just physics, and I’m okay with that. Also, I’m really fucking strong, so I know will get there eventually. 🙂

But you know what I am pretty good at when it comes to CrossFit? Keeping a steady pace. I will not be the first person to cross the finish line, but I will also not be the person who pushes out the gate so fast that they then peter out in the middle of a workout. I strategize with the big picture in mind, so I try to find a pace that is hard, but that I can maintain until it is done. I am built for distance, not necessarily for speed just yet. I try to work my strengths.

With a WOD though, it is easy to push because you know it is going to be a for a finite amount of time. 12 minutes. 20 minutes. In some cases it’s a whopping 30 or 40. But there is going to be an end, and although it is uncomfortable you push through it because, by design, it is short in duration. Sometimes I finish and think that maybe I could have pushed a bit harder or run just a bit faster. But I know I can push even harder next time, and I do. In fact that is also by design. And it is how we all get better in that gym.

What I am finding shocking though, is that for me, this absolutely does NOT translate into my real life. So much of CrossFit, for me, is a reflection of real life but in this particular instance I realize that I can not pace myself for shit in real life. While it is certainly constantly varied, life is not programmed to be short in duration. And this is really the rub. I always talk about how I am looking for balance, but I don’t even think it is that anymore. I am just trying to find a pace that works, and I don’t think that I have quite found it yet.

Life is long and right now I am working HARD. At high intensity, you could say, and I just did because this CrossFit metaphor is working for me in my brain right now. Roll with me. My day job is full of craziness — but I’m on a path. It has a purpose. I am getting somewhere, so I keep it up. At the same time this blog is turning into less of “this hobby that I love” and more into “this freaking amazing place that is bringing me awesome professional opportunities.” Both of those things require a lot of pushing for many hours of my days.

And now all of a sudden we have a dog. A dog that is awesome but needs to be trained and guided and figured out. Let’s add that to the list of Immediate and Important. And we need to buy a ring. (Well, ahem, Garrett does. ha!) And plan a wedding. And in one month and two days I will be 34, so we probably need to get on incubating that kid we want to have. I mean, right? And then I have to actually have that kid. And care for a newborn, and then a toddler, and then OHMYGOD something about all of that doesn’t strike me as the “cool down” phase of my life.

And when I think about these things I wonder about the pace I’m keeping. I wonder about my future and if, in the WOD of life am I running way too fast right into something that is my weakness. I never mind a little discomfort, but I do wonder lately if I am putting my time into the things that are most important. Am I going to be able to keep my head above water in the future? I spend my nights grinding my teeth while I sleep trying to answer these questions and honestly the only thing I have to show for it is a Super Sexy Mouthguard. I should Instagram that hotness, let me tell you.

Obviously I don’t have an answer for any of those questions. This post is offering you no helpful suggestions or advice if you are in the same boat and I am sorry for that. Maybe I should have added a disclosure statement at the beginning. 🙂 But what I’ve decided to do is just to hold out hope that it is all going to work out. What will be, will be and if I need to slow down, I can slow down. I am trying to trust my pacing instincts at the moment, because at least in the gym they are pretty darn good. And if nothing else, what I do know from almost 2 years of CrossFitting is that your head ALWAYS threatens to give out before your body does.

So for now, the plan is to just keep going.


August 2012 // Books

Just chugging along slowly with my book reading, as usual. 28 books down on a goal of (hopefully)(but, let’s be honest, probably not) 50 books this year.

Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn
I discovered and enjoyed Gillian Flynn last summer, and I definitely think she knows how to write a good sultry thriller. If you enjoy dark books, she will be right up your alley.

At this point, you’ve probably heard of this book. The fact that it was the “It Book” of the summer had me anxiously awaiting its delivery from the library, but because I had to wait so long and had heard from so many that there were shocking “twists and tricks” I think it affected my experience with it. Not that I didn’t enjoy it, let me be clear — I LOVED THE ACT OF READING THIS BOOK! It is the kind you read under the covers with a flashlight until way too late at night because you just HAVE TO FINISH. (So page turning, ohmahgawd.) But. I was suspicious of everything right from the start, so I think I there were parts that I over thought and maybe that killed a bit of the enjoyment. Also, the ending rubbed me the wrong way too, and I’m still thinking about it. But I would totally still recommend it (and have!) because the reading experience was so fun. I like a book that gets me all obsessed.

The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society by Mary Ann Shaffer and Annie Barrows
Read this for Book Club this month and had a mostly pleasant time with it. There were elements I really enjoyed about it: the fact that it is an epistolary novel (I’m a sucker for that) and the fact that it is a bit of a romance in it wrapped up in war + history (I always enjoy learning something while hearing a good story.) But I wasn’t IN LOVE with this book.

It was a bit slow to start, the narrator was somewhat irritating at times, and I just generally didn’t feel like busting out the jazz hands while reading it. Perhaps it was because I read in a short period of time and didn’t savor it. That said, it was fine. An enjoyable enough read. Great way to pass the time on a plane trip maybe? But as soon as I closed the book I had already forgotten about the characters. It did leave me wanting to pick up some more historical fiction though — so that could happen.

Hell or High Water by Joy Castro

Hmmmmm…this book. I’m still not really sure what I thought of it. I picked it up mainly because it was billed as a journalistic thriller about kidnapping in New Orleans. I have had New Orleans on the brain a lot lately and LOVE reading books set there. (If you’ve read a good one tell me about it!) It seemed like it would be a great read, but in the beginning I found the protagonist to be completely unrelatable. Her outlook on life and her odd behaviors just felt sort of one dimensional for a while.

My other problem was that the pace of the book was really choppy. I was hoping for a page turning mystery where the setting almost acted as a character. But it was not like that at all. The plot would move forward a bit and then there would be pages and pages of digression describing places in New Orleans or Post-Katrina observations. I’m not against hearing about all of that, but when it doesn’t move the plot forward at all or give much insight into an already unrelatable character it makes a book feel awkwardly disjointed. Also, the ending was ridiculous. RIDICULOUS.

Well then, I guess I do know what I thought of this book now, don’t I? 🙂

Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward

Completely coincidentally I read this book following Hell or High Water and it was also about New Orleans and Katrina. Though this one was VERY different. The thing about this book is that it has all the things in a book that makes you want to like it: brilliant structure, complex characters, gorgeous writing, and intelligent symbolism. But something about all of that just didn’t add up to an enjoyable read for me. Maybe it was the fact that I was coming off an oddly paced book about New Orleans but I just kept thinking “When is stuff going to start happening?” And I just never really felt like it did.

There were parts that I did enjoy, like the picture the author painted of some of the familial relationships, but I felt like a lot of it was heavy handed and I was not in the mood to be in awe of a book at the time. I was in the mood to read a good story. And this story, was just ok for me.

Practical Paleo by Diane Sanfilippo

I read through this in about 2 days and I immediately wanted to get into my kitchen. Unfortunately there are a number of recipes in this book that aren’t Whole 30 approved and we were in the midst of that challenge at the time. In the last couple of weeks though, I have probably tried over half of the recipes and most have turned out fantastic. the funny part is, I didn’t really buy it for the recipes.

What originally drew me to this book was the idea that she has customized 30-day Paleo Meal Plans depending on what your health goals are. There are menus for fat loss, for autoimmune disease control, athletic performance, blood sugar regulation, digestive issues — I mean, quite a few options! But when I got the book I realized that it was much more than that. First of all, it is a HUGE book. They should tell you that on Amazon — it weighs like 10 lbs, I swear! 🙂 The beginning goes into the principles of Paleo in a really approachable way, but with lots of good scientific information. Then there are meals plans. Then there are recipes. It’s a great format. And even as someone who has been Paleo for years, I learned a few things.

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Did you come across an good reads this month?


Paleo Raspberry Almond Muffins

Make these, please. Would you? It’s a simple request really and will only cost you about 30 minutes of your time. I’m not a super huge muffin fan — I mean, I like them just fine, but I don’t dream about them. And I’m going to be honest with you and tell you that these muffins were mostly born from the need to use up some raspberries in the fridge and to find something for breakfast the following day. Last week the groceries around our here were slim pickins!

So I mixed them up, sprinkled some almonds on top, walked away and hoped for the best. The good news? Holy YUM — these were amazing! The bad news? They didn’t make it to breakfast the next day if you know what I’m saying. I think these may be my favorite paleo muffins yet. They have a fluffy egg base so they pack a protein punch, but the sweetness of the honey and raspberries really make you feel like you’re having a treat. Maybe that’s why we treated them like dessert, ahem.
I wouldn’t make them for breakfast every day, but for a treat — they are SCRUMPTIOUS!

Ok, find, we’ve made them 3 times since. (So much for treats, eh?)

 

Paleo Raspberry Almond Muffins
Prep time: 10 mins
Cook time: 20 mins
Total time: 30 mins
Serves: 12
Ingredients
  • 6 eggs
  • 1/3 cup honey
  • 1 tbsp vanilla
  • 1/3 cup melted and slightly cooled grassfed butter or ghee
  • 1/2 cup coconut flour
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 1 banana, chopped finely
  • 1 pint of raspberries
  • handful of sliced almonds to garnish
Instructions
  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees
  2. Mix eggs, honey and vanilla together until mostly combined
  3. Add in cooled but still melted butter
  4. Add coconut flour and baking soda to your wet mixture
  5. Add diced banana and whole raspberries to mixture
  6. Pour into silicone baking cups or greased muffin tin
  7. Sprinkle tops with sliced almonds
  8. Bake 20-25 min.

 

Do you have a muffin recipe that rocks your world? Extra credit if you leave me a link to that recipe. 🙂


Friday Chit Chat

Oh, hello.

It’s Friday you all. WE MADE IT. I was not so sure I would yesterday afternoon, let me tell you. Do you ever have those days where the phone is ringing, the To-Do list is getting longer even as you are working on it, the meetings are coming fast and furious, and yep THAT PHONE IS STILL RINGING. Oh and since you’re not busy, someone would like to give you some feedback, is this a good time?

HA! HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! Oh yesterday. Don’t let the door hit you on the ass.

Anyway, I was pretty sure that I was going to come home and drink myself silly last night. I was having Costco Wine Section fantasies in my head at about 3pm and completely rationalizing my right to self medicate. 🙂 I mean, today is my bi-monthly Friday off, Garrett doesn’t have to work today either, the weekend is beginning, and why shouldn’t I come home and crack open the first bottle of our own wine, under our own roof, post Whole 30? I DESERVE IT.

Man, it's just all here AND I CAN DRINK IT NOW! #day31 #notdoingit #buticould

And all that is true. I did deserve it. With work stress and dog stress and upcoming inconvenient business travel stress, life is pretty crazy right now. But that’s actually just the thing. Life *IS* crazy right now, so last night after talking about my Terrible, Horrible, No-Good, Very Bad Day with Garrett, I did not actually drink wine. Because I really want to be at my best this weekend. Not that I won’t enjoy a glass or two, but probably drowning my sorrows in Mourvedre was not the way to go. Because there are LOTS of fun things on the agenda. Including, but not limited to:

*Running 5 miles today with Sarah. Well, not together actually, she is on vacation. WHO DOES SHE THINK SHE IS? But we are keeping each other honest and you know, sort of motivated for this Half Marathon business. So today? 5 mile run. I knew I wouldn’t do it if I drank last night. Since I didn’t drink, it’s about to just be me, my headphones, and a goofy look on my huffing and puffing face. Awesome.

5k in the heat of the day? Why not!

*Donating Blood Tonight — We are doing a blood drive at my gym for one of our buddies, Kristina, who lost her mom suddenly. If there is one thing I understand, it is the pain of losing a parent suddenly. It is terrible, and I feel pretty strong about doing anything I can do to support Kristina, or honor her mom. Especially with blood donation because I am a champion blood donator! Good veins. Needles don’t bug me — stick them in, who cares! Take a pint or two or twenty! (Okay not twenty.) GIVE ME SOME APPLE JUICE. I’ve got this.

Plus afterwards a bunch of my favorite CrossFit buddies are going out together. YAY!

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*Marathon Reading — I’m working on three books right now and honestly so far they are all pretty great in their own ways, though VERY different. I have a stretch of time in front of me this weekend where I can read so I would like to make some progress. Currently I’m reading:

Faithful Place by Tana French — I’m so in a Tana French mood right now, especially with Broken Harbor sitting on my bookshelf.
Daring Greatly by Brene Brown — I think to know Brene Brown is to love her. This book is her typical fare, but focusing on the idea of how harnessing your vulnerability can be such a strength in life. I’m reading this for BlogHer Book Club and super stoked to be doing so!
Perfect Bait by Michael Fowlkes — Thus far this appears to be a smutty thriller. I like smut. I like thrillers. Nice, nice. 🙂 I’m reading this book for BookSparksPR, which I highly recommend if you are bookish and a blogger. They offer lots of fun free books to read and review and I have had really good experiences with them so far. If you’re interested, check out how to become a Groupie.

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*Also Marathon Cooking — Yep, I’ve hatched a plan that involves cooking and testing 4 recipes this weekend, plus just doing my normal weekend prep. I’m thinking about putting on my new favorite cd that’s in rotation and just zoning out in the kitchen for a bit — which is just MY FAVORITE. I was partly inspired by all the recipes I collected and couldn’t try during the Whole 30, and also inspired by Katie’s post yesterday. As if that wasn’t enough, I picked up Rachael Ray’s Big Book of Burger at the library yesterday and wow, there is lots of yum up in there! Plus, I bought a Julienne Peeler yesterday (GOD I LOVE YOU AMAZON PRIME, IT WILL BE HERE TOMORROW!) so I may have to make up a batch of zucchini noodles with something because, hello: New Kitchen Toy!

*Lastly, doing a little dog research — So here’s the update with Honey Boo Boo Dog (his current name, for now.) About a week has gone by with no word from the potential owners. I have to say as the days tick by I grow less sympathetic to those potential owners and more attached to this little guy. The uncertainty is still a bit stressful, we did another big flyer bomb yesterday, checked in with the shelters/SPCA and followed up with vets, with really no response, but we are beginning to formulate a plan, and that plan includes keeping Honey Boo Boo around, if we get no word from owners. (And you know, giving him an *actual* name.)

The thing is, Garrett and I were not looking for a dog. Sure we wanted one in the future but it has always seemed like such a big commitment. And if I’m being honest, this would probably not have been the dog we sought out. He’s a pretty big and hairy dog for our little house and we were definitely going to look for a small, relatively low-shedding dog. But that said, now that he is here — there is just something about him that seems perfect. Like he’s always been here. We are obviously not giving up hope that there are awesome owners that we could reunite him with, I would never keep someone from their dog, but with every day that passes I feel like he is closer and closer to being in his permanent home here. It feels a little bit scary. There is a lot to think about and consider, and I am a person who thinks being a pet owner is a big life commitment. But also, such a worthwhile one. For a cat, they need a battery cat fountain as they enjoy drinking from a flowing water source. So we will continue to wait and see what happens (albeit with a little bit of new pet-parent excitement!)

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So that’s the haps in my neck of the woods. My To Do list is already so long I’m not sure it will all get done in the next 72 hours, but at least it’s filled with super enjoyable things. What are you up to this weekend?


10 Tips to Make Your Whole 30 A Success

As you know we recently finished our first Whole 30 Program and it was as exciting as it was challenging! There is so much to learn about food and how your body works, and if you are interested in any of that (or just looking and feeling better) I highly recommend considering it. What I don’t recommend, is going into it without a plan. It is 30 days (IN A ROW) of super clean eating, and that kind of endeavor takes a good mix of desire, discipline and determination. But it can TOTALLY be done!

After our experience, I wanted to share my Top Ten Tips that will help you have success if you are contemplating or in the middle of embarking on this experience. Stalking the Whole 9 archives and reading It Starts With Food would be my first most basic recommendations, but once you have that in the bag, my best bullet-pointed advice (complete with all sorts of helpful links) should get you going!

If Garrett + I can be successful at this, anyone can.

1. Get Your Mind Right

My dad had a lot of advice for me growing up, but one of the things he said most often was this:

What the mind can conceive and you can believe, you can achieve.

Cheesy? Yes.
True? Also Yes.

So you’ve already conceived of this Whole 30, right? You know what it entails and requires — so the only thing standing in the way of you achieving it is working on that BELIEVING part. And that, requires getting your mind right. Think about some of your doubts and then find some good mantras to counteract those doubts.

Yeah, I just recommended mantras…what of it? They work. Here were the two I used most commonly:

“It’s only 30 Days. I can do anything for 30 Days.”
“I am committed to following through. The journey can’t unfold if I don’t take it.”

2. Just Focus on the First Two Weeks

Yes, it is only 30 days (and remember you can do anything for 30 days) but for me, everything became physically and emotionally ingrained by around day 16. Right about at two weeks in. If you get started and feel like you are struggling (which is pretty common in the first few days) just keep your eye on that summit. It really *will* be all downhill from there. And I KNOW you can do anything for two weeks!

Plus when you finish up two weeks, you’ll then only have two weeks left. And at that point you will already KNOW that you can get through two weeks, so no excuses! 🙂 That’s my kind of mental math/rationalizing.

3. Purge Your House of Non-Compliant Food + Find Alternatives

I’m talking your dark chocolate chip supply, your crappy dressings full of soybean oil, those sneaky ingredients that are harboring sugar. Just ditch them. Or freeze them if you must (True Story: I did that with shredded cheese.) Or give it to someone else who can use them. It sounds a little drastic, but then again the Whole 30 is an exercise in being subtle.

It will be SO MUCH EASIER to resist the temptation if it is not physically there looking right at you and singing its siren song. If that is not realistic for you (spouse or kids not participating?) then perhaps try and contain most of the off limits food to a certain shelf in the fridge or section of your pantry and just DON’T EVEN GO THERE unless absolutely necessary.

Once that’s under control, make a plan of attack to replace all that stuff you just threw out. Need to make some homemade mayo now? Get on that. Next time you are at the grocery store, pick up a dijon mustard that doesn’t have wine and sugar in it (Whole Foods has a good one.) What are you going to put on your salads now? How about some easy homemade vinaigrettes? Find your alternatives BEFORE you get started. That way there will be no mid-meal panic or feelings of deprivation.

My fear was what I would put on my burgers since my old habit was to smother it with cheese. I decided to try some smoked jalapeno sauerkraut and it was basically love at first bite. But if you’re not into kraut? Check out these Paleo Burger Toppings. Seriously. Pesto on a Turkey Burger? WHO THE HELL EVEN NEEDS CHEESE?

Cleaning out the fridge! Bye Bye non #whole30 compliant salad dressing and marginal condiments! (my own taste better ANYWAY!

4. Actively Plan Your Meals in a Way That Works For Your Life

For me this meant creating a “uniform” for breakfast and lunch, and having dinner be our creative meal. I chose this because I like to cook in the evenings (aaaaah, vegetable chopping after a long day!) and I always enjoy cooking up meals on the weekends. Also, I don’t mind having some variation of the same breakfast everyday.
Dinner leftovers? Sweet.
Frittatas? Make one and have breakfast prepared for days!
Hard boiled eggs? Chicken and veggies? Box that stuff up and take it to work!
I vary my spices and combinations enough that it doesn’t feel repetitious at all, but is still super simple. The Lunch Uniform is usually a salad with meat or leftovers. Obviously I make WAY MORE FOOD THAN NECESSARY when preparing dinner because I count on using my leftovers. It’s all part of this plan I keep talking about.

Maybe that exact breakdown doesn’t work for you. Maybe you aren’t into eggs for breakfast or maybe you work nights. You know your schedule best and what is realistic, so figure out a routine that meshes well your life and commit to that for 30 days.

5. Mix up Exciting Complicated Recipes with Simple + Easy Food

All things considered, this is probably the strictest month of eating many of you will experience — so may I recommend picking out some DAMN GOOD RECIPES so that you don’t feel the hand of limitation hovering over you? Here are a few that knocked our socks off, and would have on any night of the week, but as a bonus they were totally Whole 30 compliant:

Sun Dried Tomato Meatballs with Spaghetti Squash and Walnut Pesto
Merguez Meatballs
Baked Mustard Lime Chicken

But let’s be honest, every single night can’t be a gastronomical discovery suited for Top Chef Masters. Sometimes dinner needs to just get on the table. These were some simple recipes that totally delivered on flavor but also were able to be assembled fairly quickly:

Taco Salad (though I used a vinaigrette as dressing)
Grilled Santa Maria Style Steaks
Coconut Lime Shrimp Skewers

It’s worth taking a minute and browsing Pinterest for good Whole 30 recipes or checking out Chowstalker’s Whole 30 section. You are going to be doing this for an entire month. You deserve good eats!
Taco Salad using a new vinaigrette

6. Set Aside One Day Per Week to Plan/Prep

I’m a big proponent of Meal Planning and I just don’t think you will have success on the Whole 30 without it. Whether you plan 1-week at a time, 2 weeks at a time, or an entire Month of Whole 30 meals, just make sure you are thinking about what you are going to eat.

Also, do yourself a favor and set aside a couple of hours to do food prep one day a week. I recommend this in life, but it is PARAMOUNT for the Whole 30. This may not be something that you are used to, but it will be IMMENSELY helpful to adopt this strategy for 30 days, and in the end is only 4 separate Sundays — or whatever days you choose. Don’t skip it!

Don’t know what to do during your food prep? Mel has a great post about all the stuff you can cook in only 60 minutes. Read it. Live it. Love it. 🙂

7. Keep Dining Out + Food-Related Socializing to a Minimum

Listen, I don’t mean to get Debbie Downer on you, but food-related socializing while doing the Whole 30 is like planning Pub Crawls during a month where you are trying not to drink. It’s just…not going to be quite the same experience.

Now, I’m not saying you won’t have success on your Whole 30 if you still socialize — I found myself traveling for 2 days for work, I went to a happy hour/reunion with friends, and attended a book club dinner hosted by friends all in the month we did our Whole 30. You can definitely survive. But I will tell you with 100% certainty that those were BY FAR the most challenging days. The days where I felt the most like throwing in the towel. “Man, I should just give this up,” I thought. “What’s the harm in one glass of wine?” “Life is too short for restricted eating”

But we are not talking about Life. We are talking about 30 days. It so easy to rationalize quitting in these situations. The righteousness of quitting will be palpable. So don’t fall into that trap if you can help it. And I’m willing to bet you can. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you will feel so sorry for yourself that you talk yourself out of all the benefits of this Whole 30 experiment.

I’m not saying hole up in your house, that is not fun and certainly not realistic. I’m just saying — for one month — be conscious of the fact that every time you do go out, or hit a restaurant, or meet friends at a bar — you are putting your success at risk. So choose wisely. Next month will be right there waiting for you when you complete your Whole 30!

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8. Find Motivating Resources

The wonderful part of the Whole 30 is that it is a large community of people. Tons have people have paved the way before you, and tons will go after you. Take as much advice and motivation from the experienced ones as you can. There are Whole 30 Forums for you to peruse. Check out My Favorite Clean Eating Food Blogs (almost all of them have Whole 30 sections). Consider subscribing to the Whole 30 Daily if you like to wake up to motivation in your inbox. Do what you can to seek out some inspiration — for now, but also for later. No doubt there will come a point when you’ll need it.

9. Become a Pro at Distracting Yourself

I read something in It Starts With Food that helped numerous times with my cravings — If you feel hungry for a particular food: It’s a craving. If you have just eaten some food and still feel hungry: It’s a craving. If you are not hungry enough that you would eat plain steamed fish and steamed broccoli: It’s a craving.

Cravings take, on average, 5 minutes to dissipate.

(I set a stop watch more than once over my 30 days. I’m embarrassed to say that, but THESE ARE MY CONFESSIONS. :))

If you’re having a craving, leave the kitchen. Flip through a magazine (maybe not a food one though, ok.) Go outside and get some sun for a minute. Fold your laundry. DO SOMETHING for that five minutes, and chances are that craving will go away eventually. It’s worth a try.

And if all else fails? Have a piece of fruit that is extra delicious, or a handful of macadamia nuts. Hell, have a scoop of sunbutter straight out of the jar. But make yourself aware of that response that you are having, and try to manage it better next time. This exercise isn’t about torture, in fact it’s the opposite. It’s about finding awareness. You are giving yourself 30 days to eat in a way that is nourishing to your body. Each successful day that passes will get easier and easier.

10. When The Going Gets Tough, Keep It In Perspective

Times WILL get tough, believe me. But nothing worth doing is easy. Kathleen mentioned something about her experience doing a Whole 30 that really resonated with me though and maybe it will help keep things in perspective for you:

I’m really lucky that I can take such consideration into what I’m eating. A lot of people don’t have that opportunity – so to complain about having to eat really healthy, nice food for 30 whole days would be pretty shitty.

How true is that? I’m not saying that you that you will not be reduced to feeling irritable about your broccoli at any time during your 30 days. You will. It is certain. It’s nice to remember though, that your annoyance at broccoli during those 30 days? It is a privilege. When you start feeling pissed, maybe find a way to muster up some gratitude and just carry on.

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Also, don’t forget: YOU CAN DO THIS. You’ve already done the conceiving. It’s time to get to the believing.

Fellow Whole 30-ers — have some advice you want to share? Help someone out by leaving it in the comments!

Want to Read about My Experience with the Whole 30:

Whole 30 – The First 5 Days
Whole 30 – Days 6-12
Whole 30 – The Summit
Whole 30 – Days 16-21
Whole 30 – Days 22-30


The Dog Saga

If you follow me on Twitter or Instagram, you probably know bits and pieces about what happened to us on Saturday. The short story is we found a dog.
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Let me tell you the longer story though.

Saturday, about an hour before we were going to leave to head to the Bay Area for my Aunt and Uncle’s BBQ, my mom and I ran up to Whole Foods to grab a few things. On the way home, on a busy and highly trafficked stretch of road, we saw this little guy darting in and out of the passing cars.
Dog Update: still no parents. But he's still cute. And we now own a leash, treats, dog toys, and food.

I don’t know what compelled me, but I was DEFINITELY compelled, to pull over on the side of the road and get this dog out of harm’s way. He was wearing a full harness, so I assumed he would have a flashing dog light collar, but after a quick search there was none to be found. I opened up the back door to my car and he hopped right in, curled up and layed down on the backseat and just kind of exhaled. It melted my heart and made me shudder all at the same time, thinking about what could have happened to him. This was somebody’s dog, and it was in a very dangerous area.

Instead of driving home we drove around the neighborhood to see if anyone recognized it. There were people out doing yard work, we knocked on some doors, but no luck. It was clear he was going to have to come home with us, because I wasn’t just going to leave him. But also? We were leaving for the afternoon and I felt terrible. When we got home we put a couple of postings on Craigslist that we had found a dog, made up a little bed for him outside, put water in various places in the shade and then had to head out. I felt terrible, but our yard is not too bad of a place to be if you are a little dog. At least we knew he would be safe and couldn’t get out, and would have plenty of shade and places to play. Though, I’ve looked for the best dog daycare near me where I can leave him safely when I need to.

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On the way out of town we hung up a bunch of signs in the area where we found him and crossed our fingers. We didn’t get any phone calls that afternoon though, so on the way home that night we stopped and got some dog food and then later some temporary supplies — treats, toys and a leash. Even this was a little stressful though. I don’t know what he eats. What if this is a vegan dog? Maybe is on a strict doggy-gluten-free diet. I don’t know:) You know what I’m saying though, right? I was just hoping we would get the right things, but he seemed happy to see us when we got home so we brought him inside, Garrett made him a dog bed in our room and gave him frontline plus for dogs.

If you’re like me who struggled searching for the best dog food, this the farmer’s dog review may also be useful to you.

He did pretty well that first night, only waking up once in the middle of the night and we took him outside but he seemed more interested in horsing around than going to the bathroom. Unfortunately I was not interested in horsing around in the yard at 3am, so we ended up back inside. In the morning when we all got up we got to see more of his personality. He is clearly an older dog, super mellow and affectionate and really REALLY cuddly. He wants to be at your feet or on your lap even though he is a little larger than a lap dog.

Well, everyone is snuggled in.

Sunday we took him to the local vet. There are four in our city (which seems weird to me? only four?) but only one was open this weekend — this holiday weekend was NOT a good time to find a lost dog — to see if he was micro-chipped. We had high hopes because he is well groomed, has a shiny coat, and came with a harness — but no luck. He was not chipped. 🙁 We filled out a Found Dog report there, took him for a walk, and returned home. Again I was filled with anxiety.

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We have gotten a barrage of responses from Craigslist ranging from totally normal people (who unfortunately are looking for other dogs) to serious creepers (we’ll take it if you don’t want it) to people cussing me out assuming that I am “only posting to Craigslist and not taking the dog to a shelter and HOW DARE I???” (Hey, glad of you to assume, ASSHOLE.) So that’s been a little stressful. Also stressful: I can’t stop thinking about the fact that someone is clearly missing their dog. And that breaks my heart.

We’ve reached out to groomers, made more signs, posted updates to Craigslist and so far it’s just radio silence. We’ve even explored what the protocol and options there are with shelters, but that isn’t really like a great option just yet. The thing with shelters is this: first, it is a holiday weekend. There are 3 major ones and it appears they are closed Monday AND Tuesday. Of course we plan to file a Found Dog Report with them, but you have to physically do it, so it appears that is going to have to wait until Wednesday.

Lots of people say to drop him off at the shelters, but there is a very small window that they keep him before they will adopt him out. This is a beautiful, well trained and behaved dog, someone WILL adopt it. We googled all the shelters and read all the reviews but it appears that was as helpful to my stress-levels as googling symptoms when you don’t feel well. All the websites say if they find anything wrong with him, due to overcrowding they will euthanize, and the reviews I read really validate that fact. I can’t even think about that yet. I mean, what if his family is on vacation for the holiday? I WOULD FEEL AWFUL.

Then there are others who say we should keep him. But right now I just can’t think about keeping a dog that is not my own. Of course we would love a dog someday, Garrett and I are both Dog People for sure, but this isn’t ours. And I can’t (even jokingly) think about keeping this little guy until we really give it a good go to find his parents. My mom keeps joking with me that “This is what it’s like having a dog…do you want this responsibility?” But the thing is — this is NOT what it’s like having a dog. This is what it’s like HAVING SOMEONE ELSE’S DOG. It kind of feels like when you are on pins and needles babysitting someone else’s kid, except that you have no idea if the parents are ever coming back and that is an added layer of stress. My family and I were going to look into dog breeding services for us to get a dog so it seems like he came into our life in the perfect moment. We also started reading about dogs just like those articles from this pet magazine ‘Household Pets’ so we can have ideas about this pet.

Hey! Stop reading and come play with me!

But also, in the meantime, this little guy is just such a sweetheart. He is a very clear communicator. When he wants attention he will come right up to you and put his paw on you and give you a nudge. When you are typing on the computer he is laying right down at your feet making sure they stay warm. He is clearly someone’s companion and someone’s friend, and we want to do everything we can to find them. In the meantime we are just waiting and watching, and giving head pats and doggy-hugs. Trying to make sure he likes his dog food and playing fetch with him in the yard. The upside is that his quality of life with us will be good while he is here, and luckily he seems to have made himself right at home. We will also try dog training by Georgia Pine K9 to make sure he is properly house trained. If you’re looking to have a companion like our furry friend here, you can check out sites like https://www.americanlisted.com/florida_9/pets_and_animals_47/pitbull+puppies/. You should also prepare your home if you’re planning to buy or adopt a puppy. One of the things your need to consider is having a dog fencing or an aluminum fencing installation with secure gates around your yard so the dog can play safely.

#ootd plus one.

But I can’t help but wonder if he is missing his own house. And surely, someone out there is missing him. Fingers crossed for us, internet?


Goodbyes and Hellos

This is a very grainy picture of the house where I grew up in Fremont, California.

We drove by it Saturday night and despite the terrible lighting and the fact that we had a 2 hour drive ahead of us, I insisted on stopping to take a picture of it. This is the sidewalk where I used to play hopscotch. The street where I learned to ride a bike. That window on the right is where our two golden retrievers used to sit and stand guard, waiting for someone to come home with their noses sticking to the window. This neighborhood is where I made my first friends, walked to school and indulged my teenaged entrepreneurial tendencies by starting a little babysitting ring. It was a good house, and I lived there from the time I was shorter than our kitchen table until the end of high school.

My parents sold that house when I was 17. I went away to college and never really got to come back “home,” although they stayed living in the same town. A couple of years later my dad passed away, and though I spent a year living back in this city where I grew up, I eventually moved on to Los Angeles and then to Sacramento (where I live now) because my mom and grandparents had made their way up there. This year I will have spent as many years away from Fremont as I did living there.

I moved to Sacramento to go to college and it was somewhat arbitrary. I didn’t imagine staying long and I never imagined calling it home. But then of course I met a boy. And slowly but surely friends and family starting moving up towards our direction. I’d run into high school friends at my job, and see the parents of people I graduated with at the grocery store. More family moved closer, good friends moved away from my hometown to other cities and states, and little by little there were less people to go back and visit in Fremont.

My Aunt and Uncle, however, continued to remain there in their home of more than 20 years. In my mind, that house is filled with just as many memories as my own. It is where my cousins and I would have sleepovers, where we would run around in the backyard. As I child I remember it was the fun house with cable television and the Good Cereal. (Sorry, Mom. Grape Nuts was not that exciting as a kid. :)) And when they sold it about a month ago to move up to a little town about 20 minutes from Garrett’s and my house I was ridiculously excited! More family nearby — YES! But also, there was a part of my that was just a tiny bit sad.

No more family in Fremont.

Saturday afternoon my mom and Garrett and I ventured back to Fremont for a big friends and family BBQ and one last hurrah at my aunt and uncle’s house. It is so exciting that they are starting a new chapter, retiring, moving closer to us, and building their dream house. But it also tugged on the heart strings just a bit that this chapter of my hometown was being closed for good. I grew up there. Many of my cousins grew up there. All of our parents grew up there. It’s where my dad made a name for himself, and where he died. There are memories around every corner, and now there will be no trace of us.

As with any goodbye, there is a little sadness. But when one chapter ends, another starts and that is exactly what we were celebrating on Saturday. There were family, friends and neighbors in spades all clinking their glasses to good things and good lives. Garrett and I did not resist the siren song of red wine as we thought we might, but after 32 days of clean eating and no drinking, it was a lovely day and occasion in which to imbibe!

All of us will miss that house and that town for sure, but we will carry the good memories with us as we all start our own families.

The Fremont chapter is over, but the book of our family is long and ever evolving.

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