So on my long list of things that I hate overhearing women say is, “I’m growing my hair out for my wedding and I can’t wait to chop it off when it’s over.”
Other things you can add to that list:
“I want long and lean muscles, not bulky ones.”
“I get along soooo much better with guys.”
“I’m trying to lose 5 lbs.”
and basically any iteration of the phrase “When is he gonna put a ring on it.
But let’s get back to the wedding hair issue: What is with that? I totally get that having long, romantic hair is the image that we are most bombarded with as “future brides” but the idea that you would spend time having a hair style you don’t love (ie: I can’t wait to chop it off when it’s over) because you want to look like this archetypal bride makes me want stand up on my anti-media soap box. (Also: OMG, no. This is not for me.) But don’t worry, that’s not at all where this post is going.
You see, I actually have crazy long hair right now. Like way past my shoulders long, and I’m pretty sure the last time I had hair this long I was writing Pearl Jam lyrics in black sharpie on my high school locker and wondering if Jordan Catalano was going to ask me to the prom. I realized recently that it’s just…not my preferred hair length. It’s fun, I can do a lot of things with it, it goes back nicely in a ponytail, but I just don’t really feel like it fits me. I love long hair on other people, and other people love having hair extensions, so I can’t really explain it, and I’m still undecided which one to try, you know?
So the other day I was doing my hair as I got ready for work and I thought to myself, “Self, you should tame this crazy mane and get it chopped.” And then without skipping a beat, I thought to myself “Oooooh, but will I regret it when we get married?”
AND THEN I DIED OF SHOCK AT THE HYPOCRISY OF MY SUBCONSCIOUS.
And then I made an appointment with my hairdresser. For this Friday, actually. 🙂
I’m definitely going to get it cut shorter because it’s time. The problem is I spent just about the entire decade of the 2000s with an A-line bob, which seems to be the Go-To suggestion whenever I talk about cutting my hair. And while I love love love that cut (and consider it the reason that I love shorter hair to this day) I feel like I’ve been there, done that. I want to branch out.
Here is my FAAAAAAAAANTASY haircut and hair coloring, but do not select that because I don’t even have the courage to do this. (Yet. But I’m working my way there.)
So that leaves us with the following three options:
Option 1 – Round // Choppy // With Some Bangs
Option 2 – Sleek // Short // Bob
Option 3 – Ooooh, Asymmetrical
I realize that no haircut will actually make me have the darling facial structure of any of these lovely ladies, so fret not. With that in mind…WHAT SAY YOU, INTERNET!
I love Option 1 and Option 2…I think both would look great on you.
If you go for Option 3, I reserve the right to serenade you with Bananarama’s “Cruel Summer.” Or Flock of Seagulls “I Ran.”
I was one of those grow-it-out-until-my-wedding girls…then i chopped it and now i’m back to long. It took me a long time to find a hairdresser who could do something good with someone who has hair that it relatively fine, but A LOT of it.
I think option #1 would frame your pretty face the best!
I too long for the pixie cut but am a chicken!
Love option 1 or 2, but 3 just looks like a mess – and not a hot one.
I say go for option 1. It’s closer to your “goal” and if you can handle it, then it won’t be that much of a stretch when you decide to GO FOR IT!!!
I grew/left my hair long for my wedding but only because I wanted it to be securely up and out of my way. No way in hell did I want hair making my neck all hot on my wedding day.
I have a hard time deciding between these cuts, because they would all look like a mushroom landed on my head. My hair is frizzy and poofy.
I think your hair does not have that issue, though. I love the bangs on the first one, but I actually like two as well. I think I would opt for number two, but with maybe a few more wispy bangs? Rather than a such a strong side swept bang. I am very pro-bangs though. I have a giant forehead. But I also like that bangs soften a short cut a little offering flexibility. Eh, I am no help.
I like Option 1! I think it would work well with your hair type, which I think (?) is more straight?
Option 1. I heart the bangs!
Option #1!!!!! It will be PERFECT for your hair, facial structure and skin and you can still wear cute headbands to workout.
And btw, today, I just went from #1 to the shorter than Gennifer Goodwin pixie cut. It’s 85 in Chicago today and I don’t regret one second of it! I feel so FREE!
I love 3 but all are adorable!
I grew my hair out for my wedding, but it had nothing to do with thinking that’s what a bride is supposed to look like. I have wavy hair with frizzy tendencies and I just didn’t trust it to cooperate on my wedding day. I wanted it to be long enough to all be up. It drove me crazy for months and I cut it off the day after I got back from my honeymoon. I don’t regret it at all.
I love option 2. I think it’s a great look.
I’m going through a bit of the same thing right now. Only I love my long hair and almost have always had long hair to the extreme (it’s to my butt right now, it’s been longer in the past). Even though I love my long hair, I almost never wear it down, I love buns and updos. My main problem is framing my face, I don’t want bangs though. I’m suck.
I can’t wait to see what you end up doing with your hair.
I love my asymetrical hair cut. So I vote for 3. It doesn’t have o be a “hot mess”. Mine is a la Posh Spice……for the life of me I can’t remember her real name this second
You know that first photo of Gennifer is the one I use to get my hair cut with, right? 🙂
I’m in the middle of growing out my hair a wee bit (yes, for the wedding!) but nothing long, not even towards a bob. I just need a little bit more hair to curl or wave or stick a flower in on the big day. I did feel that pull to grow it out initially to be a “real bride” then realized how much bullshit that is and stopped that crazy thinking.
I really like the first one for you but I also think 3 would look good.
YAY for chopping off one’s hair!
Option 2-as soon as I saw it, I could see you totally rocking that haircut.
I vote for option 1. I think it would look awesome on you. My second choice would be option 3. I’m not a fan of option 2 for you — too cutsie.
Just know I am useless in all of these situations as now that I finally love my haircut (an asymmetric – longer in front) razor cut with side bangs, I think everyone with find hair should get it.
I love Option 2 for you the best though but with a little side band. Option 1 has too much bang.
And now I’ve said bang so many times ITS NOT EVEN A WORD ANYMORE.
Lady- you’ve got super fab bone structure. Go for the pixie! Dooooo eeeeeeet.
Hi! I am a brand new blog reader, and I happened on this post today, a day I just got my hair cut back to a pixie. I have to be honest- I have often been bored with long hair (All pony tail all the time, what!), but I have never regretted my super short locks.
Pixie!!!!
And I love every single one of your pet peeves.
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