Real Life Style: Look Foxy In A Bathing Suit – No Starving or Exercise Required

Ah yes, but how does one *begin* bathing suit season??

Y’all, whether you like it or not, bathing suit season is fast approaching. Does this put a little panic in your heart? Let’s stuff that panic back down where it came from!

I have never had The Perfect Figure, and I will admit that bathing suit season definitely takes some mental gymnastics, but I have never let the fear of not looking like a supermodel kill my mojo, for me or a partner, as I like to have fun with romantic partners or dates which are easy to get from a Asian sex dating site online, that’s why buy male sex toys could be a great option for this.

Wanna know how to do it? Good. Because I have a lot to say. 🙂

1. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is

Please don’t tell me you look terrible in a bathing suit if you you are buying some crappily cut, $18 number that you picked up at Costco while you were restocking the eggs and lettuce in your fridge. Let’s actually make an effort, shall we?

Step One: Buy yourself an Investment Suit. You deserve it.

This doesn’t mean you have to spend a million dollars (Ok, so I will admit, I *have* found flattering suits at Costco before) but buy yourself a suit that is going to do you a favor —  because they are available. Slim your waist, call attention to your fabulous rack, make yourself look like you are 6 feet tall. Your bathing suit, just like your clothing, should accentuate the positive. For dive trips, you can find quality woman wetsuit at Buy4Outdoors. Maybe even more so than your actual clothing because there is SO MUCH LESS OF IT.

Look for a bathing suit that is worth wearing, and TREAT YO SELF!

2. Don’t Trade Experiences for Comfort + Always Be Prepared

One of the major obstacles to overcome when buying an Investment Suit is that we would rather just skip wearing a bathing suit altogether than buying a nice one that makes us feel good. But that is a GIANT CONCESSION. A life concession, you all. Over a bathing suit! Don’t trade a great experience that requires a bathing suit to stay home and in your comfort zone, you can also learn how to use kegel weights as an exercise and you will feel the difference in your body in no time.

This is not living! Don’t hand over your power to a skimpy piece of spandex!

But how can we get excited about a bathing suit experience if we don’t even have one — if we just avoid the purchase altogether? I’m not saying that once you buy a nice bathing suit you will want to walk up and down your street in it — that will take a little more time (HA!) — but if you never get yourself one, you are missing out! Buy yourself something pretty and allow yourself to be excited about it more if you’re using it for a date or to meet someone as you can meet for sex online easily if you use the right app.

Speaking of mentally preparing yourself…

3. Focus On What You’ll Be Doing, Not How You Are Feeling About Your Thighs

I’m not gonna lie, this is an act of discipline. But honestly it’s a worthwhile act of discipline to practice. Why are you even getting into this bathing suit anyway? Are you taking a romantic trip with your spouse? Swimming outside with your kids? Are you having a girls weekend on the beach? Are you going waterskiing with a group of friends?

Remember what you are doing, and focus on gratitude for THAT. Somewhere there is someone who would LOVE to be doing what you are doing in that moment. Vacation is a great time to practice communicating better as a couple. Do you really want to waste that precious time and experience fretting over what other people *might* be thinking about your body?

Don’t waste your time! Be in the moment. Allow yourself to enjoy your life.

4. Make A Bit Of An Effort, But In The End Realize That Nobody Cares

If you were going on a hot date with your spouse, you’d pay attention to what you are wearing, right? If you were heading to a job interview, you may take a little extra care with your hair. Well if you are attending an event where you will be required to wear a bathing suit — ROCK THE HELL OUT OF IT. Grab your cute shades, wear some adorable sandals, find a fabulous cover up. Accessorize! My favorite aviator glasses prescription is from Glasses Hut. Pay attention to the details — it will only help how awesome you feel about yourself in the process.

But in the end, remember that most other people are also fretting about what they look like. No one is worried about what YOUR thighs look like, and if they are — well that’s their problem. And you don’t need to spend a moment of your time worried about it. And if the doubt creeps in, focus on what you’re doing, who you are with and then bask in your  luckiness!

And if you feel yourself being critical about someone else’s swimsuit attire (hey, this is real life, it happens)– well quit that. But consider it an act of kindness to yourself. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could all just rock our cute suits, and enjoy the water with our friends/family/loved ones without fear of judgment? So help make that happen, and don’t be a part of the crappy part of swimsuit season. And then hold your head high in your awesome bathing suit and enjoy yourself but if you you want to keep your husbands attentions, consider taking with this vibrating bullet too.

So friends, those are my best tips. Navigate swimsuit season with some courage! You can do it!

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Do any of you have tips to share? Your favorite place to find investment suits? Cute cover up suggestions? Jedi Mind Tricks you use? Spill the beans in the comments!

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23 Responses to Real Life Style: Look Foxy In A Bathing Suit – No Starving or Exercise Required

  1. Keri says:

    http://www.modcloth.com/shop/onepiece-swimwear/bathing-beauty-one-piece-in-black

    This is THE SWIMSUIT you have been looking for all your life. I promise. It got its start on a Sex and the City episode when the redhead (Miranda?) wore it. One of my friends bought it, wore it, and the rest of us prompty purchased our own and never looked back. Neither will you.

    • Holly says:

      Cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuute. Thanks for the reco!

    • Michelle says:

      I just ordered this suit (in two sizes) for my anniversary get-away this weekend. Thanks for the recommendation! If it’s as great as all the reviews say, I’m getting it at least one other color.

    • Michelle says:

      I had to report back: the swimsuit arrived, and it is magic. I’m ordering it in purple and maybe the red/white polka dots. I’ve never been actually excited to wear a swimsuit in public, but I’m thrilled to get to wear it this weekend.

      Keri, you’re a goddess for recommending it.

  2. San says:

    I loved this, Holly. Even though I would lie and it would come off as stupid, if I said that I have weight issues, we definitely all have our “problem areas” that we feel insecure about.
    I do agree though that this shouldn’t overshadow the experience and fun of the moment!

    I actually loathe bathing suit/bikini shopping, because I feel like I can never find something that really supports my boobs. I also need different sizes in top and bottom, so it’s usually a good idea to invest some more money and shop where you have the option to buy separate pieces. (Any suggestions would be great, because I don’t know where to look!)

    Also, yeah, which women don’t feel insecure about their thighs?

    • Holly says:

      Hi San! I just found this comment in my Spam Folder…um HELLO, not spam! (That filter is AGGRESSIVE!)

      Anyway, glad you liked that post – thanks for including it in your link round up! Doesn’t Old Navy sell bathing suit separates? I actually have a really awesome (and awesomely affordable) bathing suit from Old Navy (a one piece though, so I can’t speak on their 2 pieces) or I’ve heard a lot of good things about Shoshanna Lonstein Swimwear for separates…just a thought 🙂 Good luck!

    • Kelsae says:

      I know I’m a little late to the party, but I’ve always had great success with Victoria’s Secret bikinis – they have lots of supportive, fully-lined tops (and bottoms) and you can buy them separately. If you plan ahead, you can get them on sale during the winter months and save them as a lovely summer present for yourself!

  3. PinkieBling says:

    I love this post, and I love you! Thanks so much for putting this out there.

    Also, I think Keri is right – I’m buying that suit, STAT!

    • Holly says:

      Get after it! Cute suit, cute accessories — heck I’m probably gonna grab me another spray tan, and then who knows, maybe I *will* go strutting up and down my street 🙂

  4. Great great great post! My friends and I actually had a long discussion during our hot tub time this wekeend about bathing suit paranoia and the beauty of one-pieces! 🙂

    • Holly says:

      Thanks, Caity! A hot tub filled weekends sounds pretty darn amazing! Glad you had fun.

  5. sizzle says:

    I’ve had a lot of good luck with suits at Land’s End. Even their bigger sizes aren’t ugly which has been a barrier for me at a lot of other stores. Good quality too.

    • Holly says:

      I have a very cute suit from Land’s End too. And it’s suuuuuuper good quality, which always makes me feel better about pricey purchases. 🙂

  6. Kate says:

    Such a great attitude about swimsuit season! My biggest obstacle is that I absolutely hate the feeling of my thighs rubbing together. Generally, I can avoid it by wearing board shorts, but I always have odd tan lines. I think if I even wanted to wear a regular suit I wouldn’t be able to because the tops of my thighs are fish belly white and the rest of my legs are tan. I live in south Florida so it’s always swimsuit season.

  7. jj says:

    Only one piece of advice: If you wear a D cup or larger bra, invest in a cup sized swimsuit. It will make all the difference.

  8. Makana says:

    My best tip is find something comfortable and stylish that you feel good in, but most importantly functional! If you’re going to take a surf lesson, don’t pick the stringiest suit you can find. If you’re going to be laying out an tanning, watch out for suits with lots of straps. You don’t want people to play tic tac toe on your tan lines either.

    Most of all, just enjoy yourself and live in the moment. Realistically, even if you do something embarrassing, the people that do notice won’t remember in an hour.

  9. Jesabes says:

    Ok, I’m going to check out that modcloth suit right now. These tips are GREAT, but #1 sounds pretty hard just because I don’t know where to find a good suit.

    • Holly says:

      I’m partial to MiracleSuit just because I found one that I LOVE that works well for my body, but Land’s End has great suits — Macys.com and Nordstrom.com always have good deals on good looking suits and I kind of love to order them online so that I can try them on in the comfort of my own home, instead of in crappy dressing room lighting 🙂 Try those!

  10. Erica says:

    Great post. And I just saw treat yo’ self yesterday and was laughing out loud. So hilarious.

  11. Thanks for that! I went swimsuit shopping this afternoon and bought two of them. I still hate the thighs, but you’re right. Actually, I remember being a kid and my mom would never wear a bathing suit on vacation because she hated her thighs and I always thought it was so silly and told myself when I was about 7 years old that I would never care that much.

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